“The human being is the mirror in which God sees Himself.”
– Ibn Arabi
One of the earliest and most repeated themes in spiritual circles is the Law of Projection, also known as The Law of the Mirror: you are what you see outside. Psychologically, this is explained as a mechanism of the psyche to perceive externally what it represses internally. What we repress turns into shadow, entering the dark waters of the 8th house in our natal chart—and then, often in a pronounced way, we see it reflected outside of us.
The more we deny our shadow, the more it chases us through others, and the more annoying and unsustainable socialization becomes. We can’t stand what we see because we’ve so deeply denied our own feelings and thoughts—those not aligned with our beliefs, standards, or structure—that we end up perceiving them with painful clarity in the external world.
The denied and repressed aspects of ourselves don’t necessarily take physical form in our reality. Sometimes, they are simply thoughts we never gave permission to exist. Nor is this an invitation to act them out—but observing, embracing, and accepting them is necessary. This is how we bring them out of the closet and liberate ourselves from their grip, while simultaneously freeing our brothers and sisters.
Ho’oponopono explains this beautifully: if you accept what you are, what you feel, and what you think—your brother is released from the task of projecting it onto you.
Does this mean the person in front of me was never who I thought he was?
By resonance, yes, he is equal to me. However, the moment I embrace that what he shows me is mine, I take responsibility for my experience—and that creates a shift in my consciousness. I can then begin a process of rewiring and resetting my mind. That aspect of me no longer needs to be projected. And if that was the entire purpose of that soul’s presence in my life, they can now go in peace.
What I am saying is this: one of the most effective ways of cutting energetic cords and closing karmic cycles with others is by fully embracing what that person revealed about yourself.
Embracing this with full responsibility means letting go of the need to be rewarded, compensated, or acknowledged. It means letting go of needing an apology or validation for our suffering.
It means thanking them—deeply, from the bottom of your heart—and moving on without expecting them to change.
What keeps us stuck in karmic loops is waiting for the other to change, because we still haven’t assimilated the truth: they are our mirror. Remaining in that expectation is remaining in the victim state. And there is nothing that delays our awakening more than continuing to identify as the victim.
Yes, we did suffer. But it was for the sake of waking up.
Isn’t that what you’re looking for?
It is not your job, nor your concern, how your brother evolves—what he does with his life or how he experiences consciousness is his path. As we say in Colombia, “you have no candles in that burial.”
Focusing your energy on someone else’s behavior is a form of escapism. It’s a way of avoiding your own responsibilities, because there is a hidden benefit to remaining in the victim role.
Maybe now you are being seen as you never were before. Maybe you are admired for your strength. Maybe you’re unconsciously punishing your brother through guilt.
It is crucial to open the door of honesty and walk through it. Ask yourself:
What am I gaining from staying in this posture of the victim?
And then ask:
Does this gain compare to what I could receive if I moved on and used my pain as fuel for awakening?
I guarantee you, the more you embrace the habit of seeing yourself in the other, the faster your process of evolution will move. And the faster you evolve, the clearer your path to your life mission becomes.
Many people ask me how to connect with their life purpose.
In my experience, you will never connect with your purpose if you do not cross through your shadow. The more you deny it, the farther you are from fulfilling your mission.
And the farther you are from your mission, the more purposeless and heavy life becomes. Because the only real happiness is found in being authentic and doing what you came here to do.
Everything else is temporary gratification that doesn’t fill you.
Life becomes enjoyable when you remember who you are, what you came to do, and when you begin to listen to the voice of the universe guiding you to activate your mission and your powers. Everything we do before that is simply an attempt to numb the pain of feeling purposeless on this Earth.
Life is movement, transformation, and evolution. But none of that is possible without taking the first step: entering your own inner hell. To discover, perhaps, that you were never the angel you thought you were… but rather, your own main torturer and demon.
And only when you discover that the demon and you are one…
can you finally taste your unity with the ONE.
The Circle of Hanik 