A trending topic today is “being more feminine.” But what does that really mean? Is it walking slowly or speaking in a soft, caressing voice? Is it wearing dresses and makeup with matching bags? Is it sitting and waiting for a man to take charge of your life? Is it surrendering and submitting without clarity, boundaries, reassurance, or security?
People talk about “flowing.” But what is flowing, truly? And how much “flow” is enough to activate your feminine side?
The truth is that, like every trending topic, we tend to digitalize, standardize, and commercialize these concepts until we can no longer distinguish the apparent from the essential.
We need to start by understanding that activating your feminine energy as a woman is the result of a healing process—not a mask you wear to get certain results. It is not a pose, a trick, a filter, or a seduction tactic. It is the natural, unconscious, uncontrollable awakening of your magnetism as a woman—something you cannot direct, measure, program, or plan. It is the reestablishment of your natural essence and the power of your womb, helping you magnetize and attract the dreams and desires of your soul, which are the voice of your spirit—not vain, childish, or egotistical wants.
The activation of your feminine energy is a process that may take years, with trial and error along the way. Each time you activate a part of your true nature, you enter a frequency that attracts and is attracted to a different kind of person. If you start this process while trying to attract a specific man or archetype, you may face detachment or loss of interest, because energy does not respond to the whims of the mind. It is not wishful thinking. It responds to your frequency, which is unspoken, unposted, unexplained, and transmitted energetically. It cannot be displayed in an Instagram post, a text message proving your “new frequency,” or a posed photo of entitlement or independence. Because that is not feminine energy either.
Feminine energy is not a facade. It is not a performance. It is a frequency that emanates from your womb, embracing you, transforming the way you connect with the world.
When this frequency begins to activate, you will emanate it naturally. Others don’t need to be energy healers to feel it. It creates one reaction: it will repel anyone not aligned with your frequency and attract those who are, often even changing your tastes and what you once sought in others. Preferences are not chosen by the mind but by your energetic frequency.
Authenticity is the hallmark of this process. Authenticity is not laughing loudly or walking slowly. It is the unpredictable, genuine expression of your soul through your body. It cannot be tamed, programmed, or measured. It is your constant, total, and permanent presence, which does not react but responds. It does not confront but contemplates, does not defend but embraces, all while staying centered and maintaining your identity. It feels what others feel without confusing their emotions with yours. It sees multiple perspectives of the same reality. It holds deep eye contact without intimidation and creates safe spaces without invading others.
A woman in her feminine frequency does not use cheap seduction strategies. She loves herself and her essence so completely that she doesn’t need to seduce; she knows she will attract what is right for her. She doesn’t target anyone; she knows her womb will invite the right soul into her life. She doesn’t need to prove herself. She emanates beauty that is not based on size or shape. She radiates serenity without a fake mask of tranquility. She exudes calmness without forcing herself to be quiet to appear spiritual. She doesn’t plan her words or reactions. She respects her inner timing, which tells her when to be available and when not to be—not as a manipulation tactic, but out of respect for the inner voice that always calls her to choose herself first.
A woman activated in her feminine energy is a High Priestess. She requires moments of silence and privacy. She does not need others but enjoys their company. She is not in a rush to be chosen, because she chose herself the moment she began her healing journey. This self-love should never be confused with arrogance or entitlement. It has nothing to do with aesthetics or financial investments in appearances. It is an energy that cannot be faked.
Even if a woman tries to fake it, others will not feel attraction but rejection, because needy energy is always perceived, no matter how indifferent she pretends to be. Energy cannot be pretended. It is felt unconsciously. When a woman withdraws her energy, it is like drawing a protective cloak around herself, preserving her natural flow of love. A man will feel this and experience a healthy desire to reconnect with her. But when she is desperate for his return—even if she acts indifferent—her energy invades him, making him feel drained, overwhelmed, and in need of distance to regain his sovereignty.
Have you ever wondered why what you desire most often comes when you no longer want it? It is because you stopped suffocating your wish with desire, allowing it to breathe and flourish. The same happens in relationships.
You might try to force this by transferring energy from one man to another to create attachment, but the underlying issue remains. When you open the flow of energy toward the first man again, he will feel the need to withdraw, because energy cannot be manipulated to achieve your goals; it must be redirected back to yourself.
Redirect it to your life, your projects, your activities, and above all, your healing process. The flow of a woman is a flow of pure, unconditional love, even when the mind and ego resist its highest expression. This flow is why women can hold deep empathy for everything around them. This energy can heal anything, but the first recipient of this energy must be yourself, revitalizing your body, chakras, mind, heart, organs, and your entire life. Once you are fully restored, your inner High Priestess is activated, and you heal through your presence—not through over-giving or over-mothering, which often comes from the wounded ego’s misinterpretation of feminine nature.
We are healers, lovers, and embracers. But when we forget our true nature, we do these things from our wounds, creating imbalance in relationships, mothering our partners, and fostering emotional entanglements that lead to chaos, disruption, and abandonment. In response, many women harden, masculinize, manipulate, and control from a fear of abandonment, creating false connections based on mental games. None of this brings true fulfillment.
True transformation requires a complete revaluation of our nature and a remembrance of who we truly are. It requires conscious trial and error until we embody it fully. It is a mix of mental, physical, emotional, psychological, energetic, and spiritual work—a reprogramming on all levels that women must undertake, not simply to improve or secure the commitment of a “high-value man,” but to fulfill our true mission on this earth.
Women, this is a call to remember your nature. We must do it now. We must remember who we truly are, because only then does our walk on this earth have true meaning, purpose, and the fulfillment of our mission.
Welcome, women, to the call of your womb.
The Circle of Hanik 