We form energetic connections all the time to help us overcome patterns that keep us stuck in behaviors and loops. We often see these repeated experiences as failures, but in truth, each repetition is a chance to make a different choice and stop repeating the same mistakes.
We often misunderstand the purpose of karmic or soulful connections. When we discover, through various methods, that a connection is tied to past lives, we can confuse purpose with a love story, mission with a lifelong relationship, and energetic exchange with deep conversations or shared knowledge. We mistake inner growth for compatibility. The truth is, past-life and energetic connections don’t necessarily come to teach us through words, nor are they meant to remain in our lives forever. What matters is what we achieve during the time we share with that person—whether it’s an hour, a day, a week, or a month.
As we learn and transform through these experiences, we fulfill our mission. There is no need to have a final conversation to “close the cycle.” We don’t need galactic reunions to finalize a soul contract or acknowledgment from the other person to feel complete. It simply is. We don’t need to reach enlightenment simultaneously or appear “spiritual enough” for the experience to be valid. Every experience is soulful in its own way. What makes karmic or past-life connections feel intense is the depth of transformation we undergo while that person is in our energetic field.
The goal is not perfection but the completion of a task that makes us more whole, more aware, and places us at a higher frequency than we were yesterday. This is life and evolution: it unfolds step by step, balancing determination with the ability to enjoy the ride.
Being grateful for our karmic exchanges doesn’t mean we avoid suffering, justify what is unjust, or ignore our pain. Often, these connections trigger our deepest wounds so we can overcome them and remember we are more than human—we are spirit, living a human experience.
Gratitude comes naturally when we understand the lesson within the experience and learn to detach from the messenger while keeping the message.
Attaching to the messenger is not the same as choosing ourselves. It keeps us in the loop of projecting onto the other, loving the mirror they provide while forgetting the reflection is our own. It disconnects us from self-perception, making us believe we need the other to feel whole. These souls are our teachers, healers, masters, mentors, and initiators, and we often emerge as a better version of ourselves once we turn the page.
The journey is inward—to your heart, your soul, your mission, and your purpose lived and exercised on this earth.
No experience is small, and the length of a connection does not determine its depth or validity. Thanks to all who unknowingly contribute to our growth, helping us become the best version of ourselves.
Hold yourself, for this is what you are walking toward: learning to sustain your presence on this earth.
The Circle of Hanik 