Our need to be seen and recognized, which hides behind the mask of a hero, is one of the greatest fronts of our ego. Our personality seeks external validation to feel real, and this becomes a major obstacle on our path. It shows up in the way we speak, act, and express ourselves—we may appear very spiritual, yet we still look for approval in the words of others.
That need for validation pulls us away from our center, draining the strength of our center in order to create empty geometry, creating a distance from our own point of origin: our Center, leading us to live purely from our Ego.
What do we truly miss?
The validation, the words: “Wow, you are incredible.”
And if those words are removed, what remains? Can we live in connection without being recognized?
The real path is to see ourselves. The day we no longer need to be seen by the world is the day the endless search for love that sees us will also end.
By seeing ourselves—who we truly are, not who we thought we were—in a way no one else ever could, we recognize that no amount of praise can ever define who we truly are.
Our invisible greatness is what we must connect with. The boundless greatness of our being reaches into an intimate space within us where no one else has access.
That is what true states of consciousness are about: recognizing our own immense greatness, recognise our true identity and recognise our ego as our avatar and not as us.
Once you touch your greatness, you won’t miss the external validation because they can only perceive, as much as a small fragment of who you truly are.
Anyone who recognizes our greatness can only perceive what the ego displays, or the small glimpse of our soul they are able to sense.
True love arises from the intimate context of who we are. That is why living in the frequency of love means we are always making love to ourselves, and no one can ever replace us.
Realizing that we move from a need to be seen by the outside is already a huge step in this inner game—because at least in that moment, we disarm our opponent: our ego and its persona.
This battle is between our consciousness, which longs to govern, and our ego. And let’s be honest—lifetime after lifetime, the ego has always won. With its many shapes, its versatility, its multiple lives, strategies, and characters, it always finds a way. Its most cunning disguise is when it pretends to be us (what we call our consciousness which is who we truly are) when it plays the role of our soul. That is the great deception.
Yet the proof that it is not us is revealed when it becomes weak and exposed, the moment it does not feel admired, recognized, validated, or respected by its surroundings.
The wound of devaluation often looks like victimhood, the cry of the needy inner child. This too is a brilliant strategy of the ego, because it generates another trap: self-compassion. At its core, it is still the ego’s demand to be seen the way it thinks it deserves.
The problem with self-compassion is that it disarm us, making us feel we don’t have what it takes to heal and get out of the pain.
Being stuck in pain does not allow us to connect with who we are, forgetting that the game is not about earning geometry: “recognition in the external world”,
The game is about recognizing who we really are and kill the fake us: the ego, by using it to walk on the earth knowing we are beyond it.
That is the real gain. Not the money, not the fame, not the recognition, all of it is empty geometry.
The real gain is when the king stops seeing himself as a beggar and enforces his power and will.
Why does the ego want so badly to be seen? Because it has no inner energy of its own and must feed on external validation. And it does not have inner energy, simply because it is NOT REAL, it has no life on its own, it is not GOD.
The Real is God because God IS and if it IS is God and if it’s God it sustains itself.
All of this spiritual work we do is a game. Nobody needs us. We are not here to be healers for anyone else. We are here, playing our own game.
However it is important to remember: we only win when our move comes from love, not fear. Otherwise another wasted life playing the healer will pass by….
To heal another moving internally from fear is pure ego—it is a lie, and it does not work.
At best, their own mental strength and desire for healing pushes them toward self-healing, but it is never us.
We are only there before that person as a mirror to see another part of our ego that believes in disease, illnesses, problems, pain, separation, that feeds the illusion of ego.
And when we choose love, we choose to erase with love all the memories where we perceived separation, disease, illness, pain, hatred, or fear. Not because we invalidate the other feelings and perception, but because we understand they are moving from their separated ego.
In that moment, an inner healing takes place. Healing is Loving: it is the act of pulling towards your center, all those fragmented, therefore distorted, pieces of realities towards the Oneness, in your heart…
that’s it is the only true healing. And you are healing yourself, not the other.
It may or may not be reflected in the other, because they alone have the authority to choose whether to heal. It is their game, their free will, and their life plan.
It was never about the other. It has always been about us… the other was just your great Master of Reality.
Thank you oh traveller and companion from other dimensions for bringing to me these great lessons.
The Circle of Hanik 