Life is the experience of my soul. All the characters that appear in my so-called external reality are projections of my inner, real reality. They are patterns repeated through time and history, wearing different names, nationalities, and styles — yet the inner mechanism of all encounters is a constant repetition of the past until I am able to observe it and break it from within myself.
When my aim is to change only the external manifestation of my inner reality, frustration inevitably arises. We do not have the capacity to alter the movie by scratching the screen; the outer world changes only when the script inside is transformed. Real change begins by observing how I participate in the external circumstance — how my beliefs, attachments, and judgments are manifested in those external experiences, whether lived in first person or witnessed in others while I am emotionally involved with them.
Whenever I am emotionally involved with a situation, it is reflecting an aspect of myself. This is a basic principle of true reality: all that I see is my own movie projected outward. I am the producer, the director, and the writer of the script.
What we unconsciously try to do is to change the external world, ending in frustration. The real transformation is to rewrite the inner script. At first this can sound like a manipulative skill to change other people, and this is where most of us fail — expecting an external change simply because we have internalized how it relates to us. Yet this is not a transaction we perform with life. Life expects of us a total acceptance of reality, with its consequences, while simultaneously releasing the judgment, expectation, and resentment we hold toward that reality.
This becomes clearer when we think of any situation happening around us, whether directly to us or to someone else. In that moment, the first question to ask is: What do I expect from this person or this situation — and why?
Once I have that answer, I need to go deeper and ask: Why am I expecting this outcome? What would this transformed outcome mean to me? And if the outcome does not change, what would that mean to me?
We normally do not seek perfection; what we seek is ”our perception of perfection”, stability, harmony, and ease. Yet we often fail to understand that the hardest moments are our greatest masters, helping us to liberate ourselves from those perceptions, from patterns, characters, and expectations that do not honor the essence of who we are — and the essence of who others are.
This dynamic can be seen clearly in our children and relationships. We hold sets of expectations about others, believing these expectations are “good” and “the way to be.” Yet they are all rooted in internal programming. We expect a behavior, an outcome, a response. We expect others to satisfy our sense of how they “should” be. Imposing these expectations arises from ego, because life is always manifesting perfectly in order to liberate us from the ego — and from the ego’s expectations of others.
If your child or your partner does not meet your expectations, can you still accept them unconditionally? The honest answer is no, until you uncover and release the inner conditioning behind those expectations. You want the other to respond to your expectations because of your own ego and character shaped here.
Our societies suffer from a constant rejection of the essence — our own essence and that of others. Social systems are built on imposing how people “should” be, leaving little room for essence to experience itself freely.
The breakdown of structures is the universe’s way of liberating us from those impositions and expectations. Such liberation is rarely pleasant to the ego, which wants to survive and triumph over our essence. Yet our essence experiences a deep relief when external structures collapse, because it knows it can now manifest more fully and regain its rightful authority over the human being who serves as its avatar on Earth.
The process of internal healing passes through observing the external situations that others present to us. Can I accept new circumstances without fighting them?
If someone loses his or her structure, can I still love the essence of that person beyond the physical transformation of their reality? When I make peace with my own internal deconstruction of the ego — when my inner masculine and feminine energies embrace their true nature without the burden of expectation — then I am able to embrace the external world in total unconditional love. I can accept others in both their losses and their gains, because every time someone sheds a layer of ego, the essence gains more room to manifest and the Real Reality establishes Itself.
I can alter my reality only from within, in total silence, in my inner sacred chamber, the heart, transforming totally my perception, making peace internally with what is, as it is. Doing this with trust and having faith that everything externally manifested is perfect the way it is. And it is because GOD IS. Understanding God a as The Source of Existence, and whatever it is, emanates from Pure Perfection.
Once I perform this inner alchemy of Love, I can accept reality as it presents itself — in total unconditionality and in the certainty that it is absolutely Perfect, because the Real Reality is Perfect.
The outer world is a mirror, not a battlefield. Attempting to reshape the reflection without transforming the source only breeds frustration. But when we look inward — questioning our expectations, softening our judgments, and accepting the perfection of moment — we begin the true work of inner alchemy. In doing so we liberate ourselves and others, clean, liberate and balance our inner masculine and feminine energies, and allow essence, not ego, to lead our lives. From this state of trust and unconditional love, reality naturally reorganizes around us, reflecting the perfection of God that already exists within.
The Circle of Hanik 