The topic of projections is much deeper than most people imagine. Usually, projection is understood as “seeing in the other what is really within me.” And although this is true, projection goes far beyond that.
Projection is every perception and idea we feed about another person based on our wounds, history, background, and assumptions. It creates a foggy, distorted image of the other — and of circumstances and situations — becoming the foundation of our judgments and the decisions we make about them.
The biggest issue with projection is that it creates energetic imbalance. It pulls us out of our center, our axis, and directs our energy toward the perceptions we create about others, and toward the perceptions we assume they have about us. This displacement from our internal pole generates a heavy energetic charge in the connection, producing entanglements that prolong discussions, conflicts, and emotional loops. The other person doesn’t fully disappear from our energetic field because we have given parts of our energy to them — and they, as part of the dynamic, have given parts of theirs to us as well.
This exchange is not pleasant; it manifests as obsessive thinking, replaying conversations, analyzing memories, interpreting gestures, stalking the other person and the people around them.
The connection becomes intense, edgy, intolerable — yet impossible to fully cut. This is the web created by projections: a structure of energy that traps us within the very dynamic we want to escape.
In most relationships, people do not truly know each other; they know their biases and subjective perceptions. Many misread intentions and misinterpret actions because they are trapped in their own mind, generating projections that entangle both people in a karmic loop. This loop drains energy from each person, blocking their evolution not only emotionally, but also financially, professionally, and in other areas of life.
Projection wastes energy. Every repetitive thought, fantasy, judgment, or emotional reactivation is real energy exiting the body and being offered to distorted narratives. This energy becomes stagnant and harmful, preventing the natural flow of vitality into projects, relationships, work, and daily life.
This is why some people struggle to meet someone new years after a breakup. They remain energetically entangled with the past. They keep “windows” open through fear of losing the other: checking social media, reviewing memories, revisiting old emotions, mentally recreating moments. Every memory reactivated brings back the same emotional charge, causing another leak of energy. Thoughts and emotions are not empty — they move energy.
Many confuse the presence of someone in their field with a soulmate connection or destiny. But very often, it is simply a karmic connection maintained through energetic exchange. We are not victims of karmic loops; we recreate them by keeping the flow of energy between ourselves and that person open.
Simple actions like thinking of the other or checking whether they viewed your stories continue feeding the energetic bond. This makes it difficult to create a healthy, consistent relationship with someone new because our energy remains entangled with someone from the past.
These are not soulmate bonds — they are karmic connections we don’t want to release. We justify their energetic presence while ignoring their physical absence. And physical absence is the clearest message: the connection is no longer mutual.
Some people get stuck in a moment in time. Their life stops moving because their energy is trapped in memories and emotional residues that no longer exist.
In relationships where physical presence still exists, projection overloads the connection. Both people feel heavy, and the masculine — who tends to be naturally evasive in moments of overwhelm — may feel the need to withdraw to restore his energy centers. This withdrawal triggers abandonment wounds in the other, increasing chaos and tension.
Projection feeds the archaic defense mechanisms of the ego, which tries to maintain its sovereignty and protect the person from the pain of abandonment by anticipating it before it happens. This only pushes the person further into ego, loneliness, separation, and deeper abandonment wounds. It reinforces limiting beliefs about relationships and blocks the possibility of building a healthy connection.
The way out of this energetic chaos begins with self-honesty.
Ask yourself:
- Am I forcing a connection energetically?
- Am I unable to move on, engaging in control or subtle energetic manipulation?
- Do I truly want to break the link, or does staying in a toxic bond give me a sense of security?
- Am I gaining an ego-based benefit from keeping energetic ties with someone from the past?
- Does this give me validation, an ego boost, or a fantasy of power or control?
And here is a fundamental piece of healing:
If someone has been harmful to us and our inner child wants to reclaim energy as vengeance, we must return to the adult self — the one who understands that every experience was a bridge of growth.
As long as we feed the victim identity, we keep giving energy to the other, prolonging the link and reinforcing the illusion that we are trapped in their hands. In reality, it is our own energy leaking outward that prevents movement forward.
We give away energy when we want to prove ourselves, when we need others to see what we are capable of, when we hope the other suffers consequences for their actions. All of this is still entanglement — still giving our life force to what has already passed.
Once we have this sincere inner dialogue, the next step is to cut the energetic cords. There are many methods, but the principle is the same:
return the other’s energy and withdraw your own.
This process does not require direct communication. Often, the desire for “closure” is simply an attempt to reattach energetically, not to end the connection. There is no clearer closure than someone’s absence and movement forward.
Then, close all the “windows of connection”: social media, phone numbers, photos, letters, messages, emails. Deleting this material helps declutter the energetic space, especially when we revisit it to maintain the link.
If there are items you want to keep, cleanse them energetically. Cleanse the body too — especially the sacral chakra (sexual energy), the solar plexus (validation), and the heart chakra (emotional connection).
Once that is cleared, grounding is essential. Returning to the body reconnects us to our axis. Projections and entanglements always pull us out of center by placing the other as our center.
Grounding brings us back to ourselves, redirecting the flow of energy toward what is truly ours to nurture. Life begins to open in front of us again — opportunities appear, synchronicities return, the so-called “luck” shifts. Everything we feed with energy flourishes, because giving energy is giving life. And when life shows us something is dead, that it has completed its function, it is a sign to shift our attention to what is alive.
We take the lessons, integrate the wisdom, and create a higher version of ourselves. Evolution is recognizing when something has finished its cycle and allowing ourselves to rise into a higher energetic quality — with greater capacity to give, receive, and create. Letting go of the past becomes an act of love toward ourselves, because it opens the door to higher truths, better connections, and more abundant realities.
It is always in our favor to release the past completely and reclaim our energy.
Download here the Guide to Projection & Energetic Entanglement with Healing Ritual to Reclaim Your Energy
The Circle of Hanik 